Slave training part three Becoming a better you

What makes a good submissive, and what the submissive can work on to inprove themselves.

Respectful - Show your Dominant respect. As a submissive you should come from a place of giving.

Polite - Goes along with respectful.

Key factor - You must remember every time you step out your front door you are representing yourself, your training, and your Dominant. Being rude and disrespectful to others looks bad not only on you, but it looks very bad on your Dominant. Make your Dominant proud showing how well behaved you are.

Honest - Dominant needs your honesty to be able to Dominant you and know they are not hurting or harming you in any way shape or form.

Good communicater - Much of what a submissive does is listen and learn from their Dominant.

Open - A good submissive is always open to the idea that they are never perfect and are always learning whether it's
        - New way to serve your Dominant
        - Improve yourself
        - Better submissive

Supportive - Willing to stick with Dominant through the tough times.

Can admit and accept a mistake -

Trust -  Trust is earned but at the same time it can't work unless there is trust.

Trust worthy - A Dominant needs to know they can trust you to be open and honest about your thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

Confidence - No body wants to Dominant a submissive with no confidence.

Loyal - Happy to be in your (Dom) service, open, vulnerable, and happy.

Dedication - If you are choosing to enter into service, then you need to dedicate yourself to the choice you made. ( Choosing to be submissive to a Dominant is a beautiful gift )

Kind and considerate - Always looks good representing a Dominant when out in the world.

Empathy and sympathy - A submissive needs to be empathetic, understanding and supportive will create an unbreakable bond.

Find pleasure from pleasing -

Gratitude - feel honored and grateful for being allowed to serve the Dominant. Show gratitude, be thankful.
   - Be picky who you choose
   - Take your time
   - Choose your Dominant wisely, but love the Dominant deeply when they treat you right.

Slave training part 2 trust

You need to be able to trust your partner and be trustworthy.

BDSM play is a truly breathtaking experience.

Before you jump into the dungeon together, get to know each other outside of the dungeon first.
What makes BDSM so intense is that you share a very vulnerable moment of your life with someone special and trustworthy.

How to establish trust.

Begin by talking to each other outside of the bedroom. See if they are willing to share things with you.
What to look for.
1) Do their words match their actions?
2) They have no interest in getting to know you.
3) They believe every submissive is below them.
4) Do they understand a submissive can't serve without trust?

BDSM is fun, but it's also serious play.
You are the one in charge.
1) Never play with someone you don't know and or trust.
2) Never consume drugs and alcohol before or during or after a play/training session.
3) Only use your own toys: Floggers, canes, dildos and other BDSM sex toys.
4) Always practice protected safe sex.
Sex technique
     Latex gloves
     Condoms
     Dental Dams

Slave training part 1

1sr step realization followed by research

You may begin to experiment with yourself to determine exactly what it is you are looking for?
Do you feel the need to play Master to a servant or to serve a Master?
Do you enjoy just a little bit of pain or a lot?
Do you like the idea of being restrained?
To ask yourself to know what sort of relationship into which you should enter.
The only key to happiness is the way you think in life.
You need to understand what is truly troubling you and work on resolving those issues.
You need to think for yourself how you can manage your problems and then enjoy the time you spend with your partner in the bedroom.

I need and don't need

Talk to me and cummcation with me like this.
I need you to ........
I want you to ........
You have to ..........
I would appreciate it if ......
Would you please .........

I need a clear direction. Manage me, stroke my neck, ask me to look into your eyes, explain to me, tell me to hold your hand, tell me how you want it done, tell me how it is going to be.

I don't need this

Vague opinions
Possibilities
Open ended options
Opportunity to dissection to every single thing
Conversation

I don't want to discuss or having to make tiny decisions it brings me to cold sweet and anxiety.

You lead I follow